When I first started trying to get pregnant, I stopped buying clothes even if I had really liked something, thinking it wouldn’t fit for much longer. I also assumed we would be out of our apartment soon, since it’s just a studio.
As the months came and went, I was just still waiting, waiting, waiting. Then the months became years, so more waiting. And not only was I waiting to enjoy new clothes or a nicer apartment, but waiting for my life to change. Waiting for a new, different life. Waiting for an exciting life. Waiting for the life I thought I always would’ve had.
Eventually, I decided to stop waiting. To change my life and actually do things I wanted to, instead of waiting for something to happen that I had no control over.
And you know what? Now, I’m way less focused (obsessed) with having a baby. I decided to actually do something in my life with things I’m interested in and that I can do, rather than sit around and wait to get pregnant, even though it’s completely out of my control.
By the way, this is a great way to overcome the negative feelings that come with infertility. Continuing to LIVE your life will allow you to stop being so focused on what you don’t have.
If you’re struggling with infertility and waiting month after month to get a positive, don’t stop everything else in your life while you wait. Don’t let years pass you by before you realize you can not only survive but THRIVE off of a plan B in life. Sometimes the life you never imagined you would have can actually be better than the one you always assumed you’d have. I know it doesn’t always feel that way while you’re going through it. But continue to enjoy things in life, and tap into things that interest you, and you may be pleasantly surprised at how happy “plan B” can be.